The Father

A lots of articles wrote by known philosophers and writers on Mother. You can have enormous poems on the praising of the mother but there are hardly few articles on the ‘Father’…. why we don’t know?

Father is almost different chemistry. He is not like mother whom we love from our childhood. But yes, the importance of the father is indispensable in the child’s life. When we get hurt, it reminds us of the mother because she caress, kind and love however when we are afraid we always think of the Father because we know he will stand by us and run the evil away… mother may be having loads of love but father is other name of patience. You still remember the taste of the food which mother cooks but forget the father ensures the adequate grocery available at the house. We like Mother the most because she is very kind-hearted, soft whereas father is always tough and stubborn… but reality father is more soft than the mother. You find father tough because he has faced the world around more than the mother did. And he is in better position to judge what can be better for his kid and how kid can be made tough to face the challenges outside.

We remember the love bestowed upon Lord Krishna by his mother Devki and Yashoda but forget his father Vasudeo who has ensured that Lord Krishna should be moved away from the prison and should be in safe hands. We can not think how much difficulties and miles he has trodden in the dark midnight to ensure the Lord is moved to Gokul where he will safe and well taken care of. We know the distress of Queen Koushalya when Lord Rama sent for 14 years to jungle but forget that he was King Dashrath who died for Ram, his father.

In child’s life, the Father appears in different phases. When we are kids, up to 6 years old, he is our Super-Man…. He is always with us, how much tired he is after the office, he do not deny to listen what kido has gone throughout the day, he is kid’s horse, elephant and so on. We never know how much pain father has taken to lift you up on the hands and shoulders and roam to show him the world. How much pain he has gone through to ensure your every demand is fulfilled. He is ready to run behind bicycle to ensure you are able to ride, he is bowler, fielder for the little champ. he ready to walk 10 miles to fulfil your demands for toys you had seen in the friend’s hand. He never complain even if the toy broke on the first day…….. really speaking, you never know he has started living his childhood again…. he started living in the eyes of the child, promising him to offer him everything he has not received or enjoyed. he started living his dreams of his childhood…

Now the things changes with the passing days, the child start growing. He now enters the school

We never know, how much time he has postponed his decision to buy new clothes for himself to ensure all the family members are well dressed in the festival, the children should have adequate pocket-money so that they need not to beg in front of anyone. When his girl grown up he is happy to see his children well groomed and wearing fashioned clothes. He will arrange for the make-up kit for his girl, may be at the cost of his shaving foam, you never know.

As the children grow, they have their own world, but you know for the father, children are the world. Never a moment goes when he is not thinking for the children’s career, investments, his well being. When child education is over, his thought run behind to ensure his child is working in well-known company and drawing a handsome salary, he is not interested in getting anything out of it. A mere presence of the child matters.

If the child is girl, the hundred of nights goes for her thinking she should get the right husband. The worries do not end with getting right bride-groom but multiplies as his child goes to her husband’s house. A smiling face of the married girl gives a lot of pleasure to the father…… for that you need to be the father of girl.

When you grow older, you touch the skies with your education, skills,knowledge. He proudly says to his friends and relatives”My Child”… He is always with you in the success and failure, he is happier if you are touching the skies of success…..He do not hesitate to support you on your failure. A supporting words and warm hands in those moments really matters. He knows your weak points and helps you to recover from them.

Now you are independent, not needing any help from this old fellow but he do not hesitate to offer any help you needed. In fact he is closely watching you to be sure that his kid is not getting trapped in this world of greed. He was not expecting anything from you apart from your some time discussing about the plans, he want to part of your life and spent some time enjoying your dreams…. alas we don’t have that time to share for this old man… we find him burden to the freedom etc whatever you name it.

Now there is turn in the story, we become the Father…… The first time we touches our new-born kid and hug it both hands and smell the smell of hairs…. A new father borned….. give birth to new ambitions, that are not for the our self but for the Child you hold in the hands….

here you have stepped in the shoes of FATHER………………